There are fewer rites of passage that are more joyous than that of marriage wherein two hearts have found a home in one another. A wedding is the public declaration of the private commitments of a couple’s hearts. The ceremony, though binding the partners together freely in love, is performed in the context of a gathered community of family and friends who bear witness to that love.
I ask couples to write their own vows. To view them as both aspirational and rooted in reality. I ask them to pick readings that fit who they are. Together, you the partners, and myself, create a wedding ceremony that honors the authenticity and integrity of the relationship.
I believe that the ritual act of a wedding ceremony changes a couple’s commitment to one another. That it allows each partner to relax deeper into the relationship. Many couples often tell me that they feel changed by having gone through the ceremony.
I have been rafted up the Rogue River on a jet boat to perform a wedding on a sand bar for a couple that were rafters. I have officiated a Renaissance themed wedding in a barn. The physical place where the wedding occurs, whether indoors or outdoors, is made sacred by the intent and love that is brought to the ceremony.
In addition, I have had the great pleasure of performing “recommitment” ceremonies for couples who have been married for 25, 30, 40, and 50 years. They embody the poet Robert Browning who wrote, “Come and grow old with me, the best is yet to be!”